Surprised... is how I felt as I sat in my room, thinking about what I'll wear and whether my head will be a mess of curls, and saw [via Twitter] that one of my closest friends is getting married. Oh, and then I was shocked... which then came the happy/excited feelings! Finally, I muttered, "crap, I better not have to miss this one."
I couldn't help but laugh due to the conversation I had with my tía on Saturday, as we watched my Barcelona men lose their game, about marriage/relationships/etc.
My tía is no longer married to the man I still call Uncle Tony, but she does have some interesting insight on marriage and relationships. My madre is key in this department, she's awesome with this advice and gives such good wisdom; however, my tía and I were due for a talk in this area. Her and I both grew up in a semi-religious household, believe in our faith, acknowledge it, and have witnessed some amazingly dysfunctional marriages and still have optimism in relationships/marriage. We admitted that we have the Girl Genetic where the ring and the wife/husband status is catching, but yet it's also good to just have that person being your partner and not being married. There are pros/cons to both situations, but I'm not diving into that now.
We expressed how much we enjoy being single and having the time for ourselves, not having to consult someone else, or take someone else into consideration with your decisions. At the same time, (since I'm the younger one of our pea pod) I haven't met someone who interests me enough to date. (including the Coupon Collector, which gave extremely funny stories to tell, but that's about it). We did mention the guilt (and I'm not talkin' Catholic Guilt) that would start to build within if we ever moved in with someone and wasn't married to them... and how we'd have to justify ourselves to some people in our family about our choices (it's just like that around here).
This brought me to my perfect example: Lisa Marie, my newly engaged friend. Prior to this, her and her significant other lived together and were quite content with that. They were my example of two people contently living together and not giving in to the marriage idea... because they are the only two people I know living that out. We also revert back to the culture of my great grandparents who were a-okay with this idea and expressed that really, loving and caring for someone enough to live with them suffices.
At the same time, I can't express the number of friends who are currently engaged, will soon be engaged, and married. I've attended too many weddings the past two years.
(other than finding out one on through a tweet, I signed onto facebook and found out about another engagement).
I'm surrounded by friends who are getting married! and planning weddings! and the worries of weddings! AH!
In all honesty, I look forward to this wedding most. Despite my ranting up there.
Today's playlist is consisting of M. Ward, Yael Naim, Phil Wickham, and Jon Foreman.
And we'd still be content with that, I reckon... we're both very much of the option that we don't need a piece of paper to prove anything despite what our (er, my) families think. But it's going to be the party of the century!
ReplyDeleteI dunno, I was saying to Stringer earlier how I reckon him and I will still be fun when we're ninety. It does seem that everybody's doing it these days though.
hahaha, a surprise it was & just too funny that after having that talk with my tía about all of that stuff... and even my madre asked me a question about getting married the other day (cause apparently there are some habits I'll need to give up that only Dorinda is tolerable of. so she says).
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